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May 17–18, 2020 —
My story begins at age 17, when I was groomed by my boss at the fast-food restaurant where I worked. Over time, he used manipulation and control that I didn’t fully recognize until much later.

One month after I turned 18, I went to his apartment. When I arrived, three men were there. They took my phone so I couldn’t call for help, blocked the door so I couldn’t leave, and confined me to a bedroom where I was forcibly assaulted.

When they finally let me go, I was in denial. I tried to convince myself, “No, that wasn’t rape.”

The next day, still in denial. I allowed my boss to come to my apartment. He brought his son again. Even though I begged them to leave, they forced themselves into my bedroom and both sexually assaulted me.

I was terrified and ashamed. I blamed myself for what happened. They again had taken my phone, so I couldn’t call for help. After they left, I searched my apartment, but it was nowhere to be found.

I went to my sister’s apartment and told her everything. She contacted my boss—the man who had assaulted me—and got my phone back. Despite everything, I continued working with him for the next two months. At the time, I was still trapped in fear, denial, and manipulation, trying to survive the situation the only way I knew how.

I didn’t report the assaults to the police until a year later. I had no physical evidence—only my testimony.

I didn’t hear back from the detective handling my case until I reached out a year later for an update. She told me the district attorney had declined to prosecute.

In January 2025, I was sexually assaulted by an off-duty Oklahoma City police officer. We had been in a consensual relationship for about a month before this happened.

One evening, I went to his apartment. We ate dinner, watched TV, and drank tequila. The last thing I remember was sitting on the couch.

I woke up the next morning in his bed, wearing only a T-shirt. I asked him if we had sex, and he said yes. I told him I didn’t remember anything. He told me that I could barely walk the night before, that I kept stumbling, and that he had to help me use the bathroom.

I left his apartment feeling disgusted and confused. I didn’t report it. I was scared, in denial, and blamed myself for drinking too much. Just like before, I questioned whether what happened “counted” as sexual assault, even though I had no memory of giving consent.

I continued the sexual relationship with him until September 2025. At the time, I was still in denial, scared to confront what had happened, and trying to maintain some sense of control.

In October 2025, I finally reported the sexual assault to the Oklahoma City Police Department.

The district attorney declined to prosecute, which I had already expected.

An Internal Affairs investigation was opened. On December 3, 2025, I spoke with the Captain at Internal Affairs, who told me the officer was found to have committed “no wrongdoing.”

How my testimony relates to my movement.

Survivors Without Physical Evidence Are Being Failed

  • I reported sexual assaults with no physical evidence — and each time, the system dismissed me.

  • My experience reflects a widespread issue: many survivors are denied justice simply due to delayed reporting.

    Delayed Reporting Is Normal — and Shouldn’t Discredit Survivors

    • I waited to report, like many survivors who are scared, ashamed, confused, or in denial.

    • Delayed reporting is a common trauma response, yet the system treats it as a reason not to take cases seriously.

    • Law enforcement and district attorneys need to take the reasons behind delayed reporting into consideration when investigating or deciding on prosecution #traumainformed

Internal Affairs and Police Oversight Often Protect Officers, Not Survivors

  • Internal Affairs found “no wrongdoing,” despite my report and the intoxication details.

  • My Experience reflects a larger pattern: police policing themselves leads to biased investigations and a lack of transparency.

    Survivors Are Silenced by Shame, Fear, and Self-Blame

    • I blamed myself — a common trauma response.

    • My movement gives survivors a place where they are believed, supported, and understood.

Turning My Pain Into Purpose - Relating to my legislative change.

I am using my experience to advocate for:

Protect survivors whose cases lack physical evidence by creating fairer evidence standards that recognize trauma, delayed reporting, and non-physical evidence as truly admissible.

Require trauma-informed training for detectives, prosecutors, and Internal Affairs investigators so survivors are not dismissed, blamed, or ignored.

Increase oversight and transparency within Internal Affairs, ensuring that misconduct investigations involving officers are unbiased and not handled solely within their own departments.

Strengthen accountability laws for officers who commit sexual misconduct while on or off duty, closing loopholes that allow them to avoid consequences.

Improve reporting pathways for survivors so they can report assaults — including assaults by law enforcement — without fear of retaliation, dismissal, or being silenced.

Guarantee follow-up communication standards so detectives cannot leave survivors without updates for months or years.

Expand survivor rights legislation to ensure every survivor is heard, supported, and treated with dignity throughout the investigative process.